Is Self-Care the Same as Self-Indulgence?

In a world that often glorifies busyness and hustle, taking time for yourself can feel... controversial. We’re told to "fill our own cup" but when we actually do, it’s easy to wonder: Am I being selfish?Is self-care just self-indulgence in disguise?

Let’s break it down.

Self-Care: The Quiet, Consistent Kind

Self-care is often mistaken for bubble baths and spa days. And while those can absolutely be part of it, the true essence of self-care runs much deeper.

Self-care is the quiet, grounding stuff that helps you function, not just today, but next week, next month, and beyond. It's about tuning into what you truly need and honouring that, even when it's not glamorous.

Sometimes self-care means going to bed early instead of staying out late. Sometimes it means cooking a nourishing meal even when you're tired, saying no to one more plan, or choosing movement that connects you to yourself rather than pushes you past your limits.

It’s not about perfection - it’s about presence. It’s not about feeling good all the time it’s about feeling well in the long run.

So What About Self-Indulgence?

Self-indulgence isn’t “bad” we’re human, and joy, treats, and spontaneous pleasures are part of a full life. But indulgence is usually rooted in the moment: reaching for quick comfort, distraction, or escape. That takeaway on a tough day, the extra scroll before bed, the online order you didn’t really need.

It offers temporary relief, but it doesn’t often leave us feeling restored. Self-care, by contrast, replenishes. It helps us come back to ourselves with more energy, clarity, and calm.

The key difference lies in the intention. Are you giving yourself what you truly need or just what feels good for a moment?

Why We Get It Confused

We’ve been taught that rest must be earned, that boundaries are selfish, and that being “busy” means we’re doing well. No wonder real self-care which often looks like slowing down, opting out, or putting ourselves first feels uncomfortable. Add to that the glossy version of wellness we often see online, and it’s easy to think self-care has to be luxurious or expensive. But it doesn’t. Self-care is choosing your future self, with love. And it can be as simple as silence. As gentle as breath. As brave as saying “no.”

You Deserve to Feel Well — Without the Guilt

Self-care isn’t selfish, and it’s definitely not indulgent. It’s a way of coming home to yourself. A way of building a life that doesn’t just look good, but feels good too. So the next time you pause, rest, or choose to honour your needs, remind yourself: this is not a luxury. This is how I glow within.

Written by Izzy,

Founder of Reset & Glow